Friday, July 31, 2009
Monday, July 27, 2009
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
When I was around 12 or 13 years old my family moved to a new home in Healdsburg, Ca. The home had one of those "New Fangled" contraptions called a "Dishwasher". Previous to this we had almost always used one sink to wash and one sink to rinse to do the dishes.
It was my turn to do the dishes with the dishwasher. I rinsed the dishes off and placed them in the dish washer. I poured the dry granules of dishwasher detergent into the detergent receptacle, closed the door and started the washer. about 30 minutes later all of the fun happened.
Endless suds were pouring out of the front vents of the dishwasher out on to the floor of the kitchen. It kept pouring out until the whole kitchen floor was covered in a mix of bubbles and water.
What happened? I used laundry detergent in the dishwasher! Note to the wise - Don't do that! Putting dishwasher detergent in the laundry was much more calm and un-eventful when compared to the disaster of using laundry detergent in the dishwasher.
Posted by Darin at 11:28 AM
Saturday, July 18, 2009
A little background on Darin, he has not really had to do much of his own laundry. He lived with his parents, then to the MTC where he did his own laundry for a few weeks. On his mission they lived with families and had the mom do their laundry. After the mission it was back home until he got married and had me to do laundry.
Sunday, July 12, 2009
I remember a time in out ward as a youth, that we would sing absolutely no familiar songs at church. Our music leader would say, "there is no sealed portion of the hymn book." She was a firm believer in that statement. I agree it is fun to learn new songs, but when you have a squirming, screaming kid on your lap and you don't know the song in the slightest, you don't get to sing. I don't know how things are in your ward, but we don't have many loud singers, so when it is a mystery song....it sounds like everyone is mumbling.
Monday, July 6, 2009
mICHELLE'S LIST(ANGEL JAMES' MOM)
I know a lot of people just "don't know what to say/do" so they don't do anything. Not doing anything is the wrong answer. Hopefully this list can help you help the ones you love in their journey of Grief.
1. First and foremost TALK about the loved one who's passed. Even if it uncomfortable at first, it will become easier.
2. If you didn't know the person at all or very well, ask to hear about them and learn of them through stories.
3. Don't ever put a time line on someone's grief.
4. Saying things like, "They are in a better place." Really isn't comforting. It makes the bereaved feel like the place they had with them wasn't good.
5. If you don't know what to say, just say, "I'm So sorry you have to go through this."
6. If the person needs to analyze the circumstances surrounding the death, let them just talk and rehash anything as many times as they need to.
7. Don't assume they are ever "better." It never gets better and will be a part of them for the rest of their lives.
8. Don't underestimate how frazzled, absent minded & spacey grief can make you.
9. Pamper them if you have means. Retail Therapy worked great for me! So did pedicures and getting my hair done, I felt awful on the inside, at least I could try to feel good about me on the outside.
10. Love notes. Emails. Thinking of You cards. Thinking of the bereaved person cards.
11. Do not, I stress Do not get offended if your loved one doesn't answer his/her phone or return your calls. Don't assume that they don't appreciate your effort. It's just that someone bereaved doesn't want to put on a "happy voice." and burden everyone with their grief.
12. Most bereaved people will not offer information on how they are doing unless they truly feel like you want to know.
13. Validate.Validate.Validate. Please whatever you do, don't compare your loved ones loss to someone elses' "harder loss". Every loss is hard. Comparing makes the person feel like they shouldn't struggle because it could be worse.
14. The comment "but aren't you grateful you know you'll see them again" isn't comforting. It is not a fix all. It is comforting, but it doesn't take the pain out of not having them now.
15. Just make sure they know you love them. Be a shoulder to cry on.